I’m Pregnant and Don’t Want the Baby


The shock of discovering you are pregnant might be one of the most difficult experiences you’ve ever had in your life. You have choices, and no matter what your support system is like, never forget that this is your pregnancy and your choice. Don’t let anyone persuade you otherwise. So, at the end of the day, what do I do if I’m pregnant and don’t want to be?

I’m pregnant and freaking out

The first piece of advice that we give every woman we meet that is in your situation is to take a deep breath and don’t panic. Seriously, take a deep breath in and out and clear your mind. Having an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy can fill your head with a lot of unhelpful thoughts. Once you can gather yourself to move forward, you need to make sure that you are pregnant.

A home pregnancy test is more than likely where you started and why you are on our site reading this article, but you need to go to a doctor or clinic to confirm that you are pregnant via blood test or ultrasound. Once you have an official confirmation that you are pregnant then your next step is to explore your pregnancy options.

What are my options if I’m pregnant?

There are three choices you can make if you find out you are pregnant and don’t want a baby. You can either parent the baby, give your baby up for adoption, or have an abortion. These choices may be tough, but they are the options for women in this situation. The first step in making an informed decision is to research the various parenting options and talk to someone who can help you through these rough times.

It is almost always a good thing to lean on a family member when making a difficult decision but be sure that they have your best interest in mind. When it comes to unplanned pregnancies, we see it time and time again that women get pushed into a decision that someone else in their life wanted them to choose. This is your pregnancy, your baby, and your choice. Don’t ever forget that.

As you start to think the best unplanned pregnancy option available be sure to take an adequate amount of time learning about the pros and cons about each path.

Option 1 – Parenting Your Child

Many parents take this path when they have an unplanned pregnancy. If you have never had children before, it will be a big adjustment. Parents share a bond that is stronger than anything else on earth. The love they feel towards their babies still makes them happy even when taking care of those toddlers in public who are having a temper tantrum.

You will be spending a lot of time with your baby during the nine months before it is born. You should also think about what kind of parent you want to be. This is the time to figure out plans, mobilize help and figure out how you will take care of this baby every day.

Option 2 – Abortion (Termination)

Abortion can be a difficult subject to discuss. Many women go through with abortions without getting fully educated on this option. There can be some complications rarely, and if you choose to get an abortion you will have to face the emotions that come along with it. This is just something to be mindful of when considering this option.

Some women think that abortion is the only option, but with proper research will find that there are alternative options. There are many women who are not able to cope with the responsibility of taking care of a child. But the truth is that abortion is not always the best option for everyone.

Option 3 – Adoption

Adoption agencies almost go hand in hand with unplanned pregnancies because they have been known to help thousands of women find a loving family for their baby. Working with a trusted adoption agency or social worker to help you make an adoption plan is critical if you feel that adoption is the route you would like to take. If you are seriously considering placing your baby for adoption then you should take the time to do your research on the process, the agency you want to work with, and the family you choose to raise your child.

Besides providing a loving home for your baby, some other benefits of adoption are having the opportunity to watch your child grow up and have a relationship with them if you wish. You also may be able to obtain financial assistance from the agency. This assistance can help with things like living expenses, groceries, support for mental health during and after the pregnancy, postpartum depression support, and other situations that are related to the adoption.

Who can I talk with about my pregnancy options?

Primary Care Physician or OBGYN

Your doctor is perhaps the best person to talk with about your pregnancy options and treatment plan. They can provide you with things like a due date and get you set up with prenatal care.

Social Worker or Counselor

A social worker or counselor can help you to know more about your pregnancy and provide valuable insight into how the process works for all of your options. They may be a valuable resource for tips on parenting on a tight budget, further details about the abortion process, or know a trusted adoption agency you could contact.

Family Member or Close Friend

Talking to a family member or close friend that you trust is something we encourage pregnant women to do when exploring options. Like we have mentioned before, make sure that whoever you confide in has your best interest in mind. It is far too common that people let their own beliefs or desires impact their advice they give. Talk to your loved one for guidance but not the final decision.

Is it normal not to want to have a baby?

One thing you need to understand is that it is perfectly normal to not want to be pregnant. There is nothing wrong with you if you don’t want to be pregnant. The most important thing is that you make the right decision for your pregnancy and your health, and sometimes that takes time.

No matter what you choose for your child – whether you parent them, have an abortion, or find someone to raise them after they are born – it is your choice, and you should not feel judged by others.

Can I leave my child at the hospital if I don’t want them?

There are different ways for each state to give up your newborn. If you want to give up your rights to your child, you can contact a local adoption agency or social worker. If you want to give up your rights and want to choose the family who will adopt your child, it is often best to choose an adoptive family before birth but you can absolutely do this after giving birth.

You may feel like there is not enough time to find a family to adopt your baby before he or she is born. However, there are still many families who are waiting to adopt a child. These families want what is best for your child and will love them as their own. In the end, it is important to make the best decision for your baby.

When do I need to decide about keeping my baby?

Making the decision to keep your baby is a very hard choice. You need to think carefully about what is best for both you and your baby before deciding. If you choose to have an abortion, it is best to do it within the first six months. If you wait longer than that, depending on where you live, it may be difficult to obtain a safe, legal abortion.

Making sure you have all the details for each process and timeline will help you make the right decision. Knowing state laws and requirements for having an abortion is the most important detail you need to confirm with your medical provider or social worker. If you decide to keep the baby and haven’t chosen parenting or adoption, you still have plenty of time.

Continuing with the pregnancy

You have to be content with the decision you make for you and your baby. If you decide not to have an abortion, then it is time to consider other options such as adoption or parenting to see which one would be right for you and your goals.

Final thoughts

Facing an unwanted pregnancy may be the one of the biggest challenges you face in your life, but you will get through it. If you don’t ignore it and get help immediately, you can begin to plan on how to move forward.

Taylor Swanson

Taylor is a professional copywriter with over a decade of experience in the marketing industry. She enjoys providing support to women with helpful articles on pregnancy, abortion, adoption, and parenting.

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